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How Is Your Love Thermostat?


“Love is a many splendored thing.”– Paul Francis Webster

There are 3 types of love I mention in the “Matters of the Heart” workshop and webinar: self-love, love of others, and the love search.  If you took a good look, how would you measure up in these areas?

How is your self-love?  

This is the foundation of all love.  If we do not have self-love, how can we love others?  If our own love bucket is empty, we have nothing to give.  We could all use a little more self-love!  Here are some tips to get you back on your feet:

  1. Make a list of things that bring you joy (and do one daily!)
  2. Love your mind and spirit: journal/meditate/pray/be still/practice mindfulness/use affirmations
  3. Love your body — nutrition and exercise
  4. Give yourself some supportive “mirror time” (Take a good look and like what you see!)
  5. The Artist’s Date — Take yourself out on a creative date!
  6. Surround yourself with loving people
  7. Discover and implement your love language on yourself (from the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman)

How is your relationship love bank?

Gary Chapman, relationship counselor, tells us that there are 5 Love Languages:

1.Words of Affirmation

2.Receiving Gifts

3.Acts of Service

4.Quality Time

5.Physical Touch

Which resonates with you?  (Be honest!)  In every successful relationship — whether conscious of it or not — each partner is communicating love through his/her partner’s love language.  To show your partner/child/friend how much you care, identify his/her love language. Take the assessment at the link above, or think about the times when your partner seemed to glow the most.  Or when they seemed to complain the most!

Irene Schreiner of says that a relationship is made up of 3 parts: partner #1, partner #2, and the relationship.  A healthy relationship takes work and must be treated like a job  — or a new puppy!   We only have control of ourselves, and when making decisions and requests, we must always consider the relationship.

Looking for Love?

For those looking for new love, these 4 tips are for you

  1. Decide for love. Your dream partner is a part of your vision for you life!  Decide you will have love (and strongly!) and the universe will respond in kind.
  2. Create a vision of your partner (including “This or something better”!)    The Law of Specificity tells us to feed our inner mind very specific pictures!  The clearer our description, the easier it is to find what we are looking for.  Just be open to something even better than you were able to imagine on your own!
  3. BE your ideal partner.  Opposites attract, but like also attracts like.  Work on yourself to be the best you can be.  You will find someone who resonates with that frequency.
  4. Start living the life you’d live with your partner. Why wait to go out and have fun until you have that special someone by your side?  Make ready for your partner by living the life you’d love to be sharing with him/her.  Plus, you just might end up bumping into each other!

No one is perfect at love — so which area is calling to you for some extra attention?  Pick an action step today, and let’s turn up the heat on that thermostat of love!

Much love, many blessings. ❤

I Give Myself Permission

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I give myself permission to focus on me.  I give myself permission to have my full attention.  I give myself permission to be “selfish.”

I give myself permission to have emotions.  I give myself permission to have both “positive” and “negative” reactions.

I give myself permission to love myself.  I give myself permission to “make mistakes.”  I give myself permission to experiment, to play.  I give myself permission to act like “a child.”  I give myself permission to get excited.  I give myself permission to get excited and then transfer that excitement to something else and then something else and then something else. . .

I give myself permission to direct myself, to help myself evolve and become the best version of myself.

I do not give myself permission to judge myself.  I do not give myself permission to use slanderous words against myself.  I do not give myself permission to doubt myself.

I do not give myself permission to use fear or untrue beliefs about myself to build limitations about myself.  I do not give myself permission for excuses that prevent me from being successful.

I give myself permission to love myself unconditionally.  I give myself permission to be self-empowered through that love.

Hay House World Summit (3 Days In): 3ish Points

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“Light Background” courtesy of digitalart/ 

Ok, so basically I’ve become obsessed with this Hay House  event, and I’m still trying to figure out how to fit all those hours into my life.  Fortunately, it fell in perfectly between when I was ending my school year and when I was going to begin an intensive Spanish tutoring situation.  So, between some tutoring, yoga, sleep, visiting, helping my sister in her classroom, going to my metaphysics class, going to a Sox game, and dinner with my parents, I’m trying to fit in 110 hours of audio by some of the most well-known spiritual gurus of our time.

Ok, so it’s not really 11o hours — I’ve skipped some — but I’m the type who wants to learn it ALL, so I’m trying to catch as much as I can each day.  The problem is that it’s all starting to blend together.

But it also means that there must be some universal truths involved in here because I keep hearing the same messages over and over again:

  • Meditate. Meditate, meditate, meditate!  I keep hearing this in audio interview after audio interview.  To do whatever we want to do, we have to get in touch with our true self, and the way we do that — besides through dreams at night — is by connecting to our true self through meditation.  There are many ways to meditate, and I’m still trying to figure out which way is best for me.  I think it will involve walking in nature, using music,, or group meditation.
  • Self-loveEveryone talks about the importance of unconditional love for one’s self.  This will lead to peace in all aspects of your life.  Love yourself, respect yourself, know yourself.
  • Miscellaneous info. —  I don’t know if these are assumed by every speaker, but these are messages I’ve gotten across the clips: life is supposed to be fun; we are here to learn; we create our own reality (for better or for worse); everyone has psychic potential; life does not end with death; choose forgiveness — including of ourself; and we can heal ourselves.

So, that’s the tip of the iceberg.  All for now!

Faith and Love

I’ve been reading some fantastic posts from “Powered by Intuition” on Facebook.  The most recent one is called “Self love is crucial to developing your talents, part 1” by Peter Crowell.  I am definitely out of my comfort zone these days.  It is both scary and exciting.  And I’m very concerned with “self-love” and my lack of it.  I think that’s going to be my goal this summer: love myself.  Accept myself.  If I can do that, I can do anything!

These parts of the post particularly affected me:

“The venture zone

Maintaining control is not the same as being yourself. Being yourself requires repeated visits to a venture zone where you feel out of control, vulnerable, weak.

Even afraid.

Once inside the venture zone, you must reside there until you begin to feel strong.

Or you can bail out.”

That’s exactly where I am right now!   And this:

“Respect your own creativity

But it’s filled with risk. With possible rejection. With likely failure. With exposure to your own weakness, anger, immaturity.

And evaluation by others.

That’s why self love is so important.”

and. . .

“A sense of respect will enable you to feel the opposite of respect, and respond to it.

You’ll know when you’re being self critical in the wrong way. You’ll recognize nay saying, or veiled derision.

And you’ll know when people are responding to your uniqueness out of their own lack of self love.

Which is huge.”

Because. . .

“Because that’s where nay saying comes from

The one who does not believe in your efforts has no faith in his own.

The one who derides your dream has let his own dream die.

The one who insists your goal is impossible has no sense of possibility.

The one who nay says your plans has a history of listening to nay sayers.

He lacks self love.”

It amazes me how supportive everyone has been.  Some have stunned me with the power of their faith, hope, and love.   Reading this post, I realize that I have lacked self-love.  I have not been a risk-taker and I have been a naysayer.  And I know that I — and others like me  — need to have some faith and go after our dreams.

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