The title of this post is borrowed from Martha Beck, author of Steering by Starlight. I am grateful for Cindy Dove of Purposed Lives, for her continued coaching, and for introducing me to the works of Martha Beck. I am excited to find my Stargazer. . .
I am half-way through Beck’s book, and I’ve begun thinking about some “lizard” comments that are keeping me stuck in the past and fearing the future. Here are some throw-away ideas that I would like to identify (First, recognition!), matched up with some new affirmations:
I am not good enough. I am more than good enough — I’m amazing!
I have to be miserable. I can be happy and at peace in the present moment.
Work has to be hard. Things don’t have to be — and aren’t — as hard as I make them out to be.
Work has to be unenjoyable. I can find fun and enjoyment in anything I do. Or I can trick myself into making it not so bad!
FAMILY & FRIENDS
I have to do this because this is what may family wants (parents, sister, grandparents, aunts & uncles, etc). What I do is inspired by my true self, and whatever I choose to do is acting in the best interests of my life purpose/path.
He can’t handle ___________ (my fiance, my father, etc), so I should/shouldn’t _____________. I give credit to ____________ for how strong they are, and I will let the butterfly make its own way out of the cocoon.
If people don’t come to my parties, that means they don’t like me. I give myself permission to choose not to go to events, and I give other people permission to not go to events. It is not a reflection on my person or theirs.
If people aren’t calling me, that means they don’t like me. If I feel a need to connect with someone, I will make the effort. When they are ready to connect with me, they will do the same.
I am too shy to talk to people. I have been told that I am a friendly, outgoing person, and I know it!
I have to prove myself for people to like me. I have gotten smiles from passerbys and people I have just met.
If I _________________/don’t do ________________, people won’t like me. I do not have control over how people feel toward me. When I am aligning with my true self, I am at peace with myself and my choices and actions.
I can’t handle money. I have been managing money just fine for years now.
I have to pay off this mortgage as quickly as possible, even if it makes me miserable trying to do it. I am willing to take longer to pay off my mortgage, if it means I can work jobs that I love and live a happier life.
I need to make enough money to afford things that my friends afford and do things that my friends do. I am a frugal person who can find enjoyment in simple things.
It is good to feel poor and without. Though the simple life can be a fulfilling life, I do not need to deprive myself of everything to feel that I am being my best self.
I have to do things a certain way./Things must be a certain way. The possibilities are endless!
I must be a bad person. I am exactly who I a meant to be.
I can’t be completely, blissfully happy because that would be heaven, and I’m not ready to go yet. I can be completely, blissfully happy, as others are around me!
I’ll bet you can imagine how hard it was to type the opposite, my affirmations! Am I going to magically change overnight? That would be lovely! But, however long it takes, the journey has begun.
What are your throw-away ideas? What are your new affirmations?