Have you read Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck? In it you fall into one of these two mindsets (generally).
- Fixed: You have what you have. Your talent and intelligence are fixed.
- Growth: Your potential is unlimited. With effort, your talent and intelligence increase.
For most of my life I’ve had a fixed mindset. Though I worked hard, I didn’t recognize the growth I was creating in myself. I had friends who worked very little and got straight A’s. Since I spent many hours on my homework, I believed that they were smart, and I was not. I also became very attached to my grades, viewing them as a measure of my worth. A “B” would devastate me. Also, sometimes I didn’t try things — like tryouts for the high school softball team — because I was afraid to fail.
Those who are of the growth mindset recognize that the only failure is not trying. Anything attempted brings growth. A lesson can be learned in any circumstance. And intelligence is not fixed. Talent is not fixed. It is action and focused attention that leads us to our goals and desires.
The growth mindset is the path I’m on now. I am smart! And I’ve had a marvelous journey! I am looking for others on the same path.
Which mindset do you have? Where would you like to be?
Much love and many blessings to you all. ❤