I had quite a weekend this past weekend! I caught up with some family and old friends, napped and slowed down a bit, participated in wedding and birthday celebrations, re-vamped my classic Vision Workshop into a kid’s version, spent my Artist’s Date exploring the Dollar Store (dangerous!), did a little organizing and knocked some items off of my “to do” list, helped co-create a new nutrition book club, watched a fantastic movie, and had a great lesson and wonderful coaching session.
Through all of those experiences, what struck me the most was the potential beauty of quick release. (TMI warning!)
It started with not feeling quite right Saturday evening. I’ve been eating/drinking pretty well for my body the past week or two — and though I was a little more disciplined than I normally am at parties (sometimes nearly no discipline at all) — I still went overboard and felt nauseas going to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night feeling gassy and made my way to the bathroom. After about 5-10 minutes I was completely cleared out! I couldn’t believe it. All at once? No more abdominal discomfort, no nausea, no nothing. It was as if I’d been given a clean slate. I went to bed marveling about it and woke up still thinking about it. It grabbed my attention so keenly, that I knew there was a lesson nugget hidden in there for me.
I connected it to my recently re-discovered communication struggles. In the above case of the post-party nausea — I was ready to beat myself up. I was ready to offer verbal apologies and make extreme, un-keepable promises to never be undisciplined again. But I realized I didn’t need to. I could let it go. I could just grateful release it and move on.
Sometimes in communication with others I also like to waste thoughts, words, and time on potential protective measures that are often completely unnecessary. Therefore, I miss the beauty of the quick release. For example, I needed to communicate with someone today. The reminder thought actually had been lingering for MONTHS. Today I wasted another 30 minutes of my day (besides the countless hours of thinking/talking about it before today), trying to figure out how to word my message and protect myself from a possible unpleasant response. I even put the overdue interaction on my to do list, with the intention of looking into it more and finally getting it done.
I later REALIZED I was being ridiculous. The best course of action was to simply communicate the message and be done with it. It was not helpful to sit on it — any longer than I already had sat on it, especially — and I realized that the very worst that could happen in this case would be that the person would point out that I was incorrect, and we could confirm that, and be done with it. (But actually I was pretty sure I was correct, anyway, and in reality, “worse” would have been not addressing it at all!)
So, I completed the communication tonight, crossed it off my to do list, and simply now may need a quick followup.
Quick release. No hassle. No drama. Direct communication.
Lots of room for growth here. But every bit helps. How goes your communication?
Much love and many blessings. ❤